Dating call back
Over the past few years it seems that almost every dating dilemma I hear from my coaching clients and girlfriends has something to do with the texting. He told her how busy he was and she felt flattered that he was keeping in touch.
Expecting him to move on to something more serious isn’t realistic. There are so many ways to know if a man is a serious guy who is interested in getting to know you. It’s a type of false connection that sets up incredibly unrealistic assumptions and expectations.
He’s either impulsive or, more likely, using you as a back-up girl when his other plans fell through. A grownup guy who truly wants to know you will get the message and ask you out ahead of time.
A player or user guy will text you again in a few weeks wanting to see you that night. It’s all about how he FEELS when he’s with you, and he knows it.
I’ve seen countless women create complete fantasies and get drawn in — often before they even meet a man. With no tonality in messages, texting back and forth creates enormous opportunities to misread and misunderstand intent.
I can’t tell you how many emails I’ve received from coaching clients with a text conversation pasted in and the question: What do you think he means (aka WTF)????