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Still, they don't offer all that's out there."I genuinely want to find someone who loves Jesus and who I can share my life with, but it's so difficult when there's that tension between those two communities," Jessica Wickens, a gay minister from Canada, said by phone on Tuesday.While he's found queer-affirming religious communities that encourage him to practice his beliefs without condemnation, he's found himself routinely having to explain how he's bridged the perceived gap between his faith and sexuality."You feel hopeless very quickly when you get messages from straight women saying they won't date you because you're bisexual, or messages from gay men saying they won't date you because you're a Christian," he said."You want to find someone who values and embraces all parts of you, especially something as integral as faith."LGBTQ Christians might know better than anyone that queerness and faithfulness aren't incompatible, but still they're often left straddling two communities that have distinct norms, particularly when it comes to dating.The LGBT community can now find love on Christian Mingle.com, after the religious dating website was hit with discrimination claims.The owner of the largest online dating communtiy for Christian singles has agreed to allow gay and lesbian users find matches on its website, which previously had restrictive settings, after settling class-action claims from two gay men in California courts, the Wall Street Journal reported.Before the settlement, Christian Mingle and its partner websites would prompt users to indicate if they were a man seeking a woman or a woman seeking a man. Under the agreement, Christian Mingle and its parent company Spark Networks has agreed to update its websites to give same-sex users a more useful experiences within the next two years.Infidelity dating site Ashley Madison target of FTC probe, suits This also applies to Spark’s other dating websites, targeted for Catholics, Latter-Day Saints, adventists and military singles.
Two of the key parts of queer Christian identity — faith and sexuality — are frequently framed as being in opposition to each other, for reasons that aren't entirely unfounded: Spark Network's exclusion of same-sex users is merely one example of churches' longstanding discrimination against LGBTQ people.
That can raise questions — specifically in the not-super-comfortable context of a first date or message on an app — about how queer Christians are able to reconcile their beliefs with their sexuality, according to Philip Graves, a 23-year-old student from Washington state."Society has conditioned us to see a queer Christian as an oxymoron, and trying to fight to prove that we exist is something you have to do continually, especially in the online dating world," Graves said by phone on Tuesday.
Graves, who identifies as a pansexual Christian, said he's been rejected on a number of dating apps for reasons having to do with some aspect of his beliefs or sexual fluidity, which can get disparaging fast.
In a judge-ordered settlement, Spark Networks, the company that owns Christian Mingle as well as sites like Catholic Mingle.com, Adventist Singles and Black Singles.com, agreed to change its options for users — "man seeking woman" and "woman seeking man" — because they violated California's , Spark will change its front page options to ask for users' gender only, and not their sexual orientation.
But the question remains: Will LGBTQ people of faith actually feel the need to use a site that only seems to be accepting them begrudgingly?